From I & U to US

In this self serving age of individualism and self discovery can 'You' and 'I' really ever become 'Us'? 

Where my ego triumphs over our harmony and your needs trumps over our happiness? Where being selfish and unwilling to compromise is lauded by many, how can we ever adjust or attune to each other's needs? I am ecstatic on discovering how to love myself and you are learning to put yourself first. But didn't 'Us' get lost in the whirlwind of I, me and mine. When did we last have a conversation with empathy and sensitivity? When did we last not get defensive while flattering our egos? When did we last actively and actually talked and aspired to clear the fog in our minds and relationship?It is about me and it is about you, but when will it become about us. What do we do to reach a place where you and I can coexist and co-prosper? 

Maybe you should talk and listen with open hearts and souls. Maybe I should listen and talk sans offense or defense. Maybe we should love and live without external influences and distractions. Maybe we should abstain from our pre conceived notions and assumptions, overcome our limiting beliefs about ourselves and each other and truly get to know each other. Maybe you and I should put US above all, be it society, family, work or friends. Maybe we should live in our delusional bubble of innocence and laughter.

Maybe the breaks or cracks or the roadblocks are not here to split us apart, but there to remind us to talk and walk together through the hard part. Maybe those hiccups are actually our repressed inner child and traumas finally showing its face, as we get comfortable in each other's embrace. Maybe those breaks are a testament to the trust we have in us and the bonds we have forged. Maybe those cracks are a melange of all our socio-cultural differences, values and upbringings that we are trying to weld together slowly and steadily. Maybe we should reflect on our troughs and plateaus and not be intimidated by the hiccups. Maybe they are a part of the plan to enable us to know our own shortcomings and work on it. Maybe we should not be overwhelmed by others crests nor be discouraged by our falls.

And finally, maybe these breaks and those heartwarming talks are the path that we need to walk upon to finally becoming an US that we have envisioned for us. Maybe we need to accept that you and I, we both are imperfectly perfect for each other. Maybe there is an US hidden beneath the cacophony of  You and I's, and all we need to do is tune out the external noise, and look in each other's eyes.



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  1. shubhJune 1, 2025 at 1:03 AM

    We are nudged to think about ourselves first but heart wants what heart wants sometimes brain comes in the way and we forget love is worth everything. Heart says it's not a race we can win together. It's not a mould that other person has to fits in, not water and oil that can never mix. It's like two colours mixing together creating a new.

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    1. Musings by TaniyaJune 2, 2025 at 3:39 AM

      Let's try balancing the selfish and the selfless

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