A little bit better...

This might trigger some but recently I have come to the conclusion that we are using self-love as an excuse to let go. I agree loving thyself feels beautiful and liberating. I love that in the recent times we are not only recognising it, but actively investing in ourselves. Its actualisation brings us so much bliss and joy. But when we use it as a means to resist any change, self- improvement or constructive criticism, it is a problem.

Self-love in actual sense means to love and accept ourselves freely (mind, body and faults included), all the while striving to improve ourselves and working on creating a better version of ourselves. Don't we always want our possessions and technology to get better over time? Then why stay outdated and stagnating ourselves? Why not make ourselves a little bit better by all means possible? Why not instead of changing the world we start at home with ourselves? What is wrong in slowly steadily and constantly improving ourselves?

We tend to use it sometimes as a defence or occasionally as a medium to accept defeat. We tell our loved ones this is the way we are and will be, but don't our loved ones deserve a little better. Don't we deserve something better than mediocrity born out of our complacency or fear of stepping out of our comfort zones. Sometimes it's easier to say we want to be better, but tough to accept what we are now and even tougher to actually get in the act of working on it. Make a plan and start now. Don't wait for an auspicious time or signal. Our choices leads to our consequences and hence, our present. So accept them all, embrace them all without prejudice and start today.

Just remember to not let the words of others and sometimes of ours to bog us down. Just don't hate yourself because you are nowhere near what you imagine yourself ideally. Just don't indulge in self-blame and self harm. Just don't let the words of outsiders in the name of helpful criticism make you feel inferior. Why can't we use it as an impetus to start working on ourselves? Why don't we use our own critical speech to ignite our fire of self love.

Self love doesn't mean telling we are better as flawed and diseased or resentful and broken as we are now. It's accepting ourselves the way we are now and then slowly and steadily repairing our cracks and remoulding ourselves into something even better, someone we are proud of.....