Effortlessly hard....In LOVE

Do you know the hardest thing about love???

I think it's staying in love.

 

Falling in love is damm easy. Vibes match, thoughts match or we get attracted physically, emotionally, intellectually, there can be an innane number of reasons. The attraction is reciprocated and we are madly in love. Flattering compliments, love bombing, soul mates stuff!!

But what about after ??

What about when honeymoon high wears off and those heart shaped red coloured glasses through which we envisioned our love and lover comes off??

What happens when reason, practicality, responsibilities, distractions, goals, reality jump in the middle ??

What happens when we begin to see their flaws and our insecurities begin their endless whisper??

Do we stay and fight it out, or run, or worse keep the other person hanging onto a possibility??

That is the toughest part of love. 

The choice that defines 2 lives. We have to make it every second, minute and day we are in love. To stand by them against all odds, to love them despite all. To hold onto them however hard we fall. To stay together by choice not compulsion. Because love is usually never everlasting. It is fickle and moody by nature, but a survivor.

To tame it, to teach it not to wander, to keep loving the same person over and over again.

To not let the mundane or our complacency take over our love requires a lot of effort.  Unfortunately it's an often overlooked dilemma we end up ignoring following which slowly and steadily our love fades.

Our emotional anchor gets eroded over time due to life and it's pressures. The modern world and it's distractions are definitely not of any help. We get greedy for milking more and more out of everything and everyone without reciprocating with equal efforts and investment.

In this ever increasing materialistic and artificial world how do we anchor our love for each other?

We get busy making our lives and lifestyles or lost in reels. We forget the love stagnant next to us. We forget the most important tree we need to water for the fruit of ultimate bliss and satisfaction. We lose focus of what's more precious, for what's more trendy and flashy. Amidst all these glitches and hiccups and laziness, if we get up and choose to love each other we will get there despite all setbacks. If family, finances, society and lust fails to sway us from choosing each other, we will end up irrevocably and irreversibly in love.

But fair warning this is a finishing line we have to cross together daily. 

This is the choice we have to keep making without any hesitation each second, minute and day. 

Thats why it's not hard to fall in love, the hardest part is choosing to keep falling, to love them despite all, every moment for the rest of our tiny insignificant lives.